Friday, March 26, 2021

Passover Musings

Passover musings 
 On October 27,2018, the Tree of Life synagogue was attacked Eleven people were killed simply because they were Jewish. Many others were injured. 
 The Tree of Life synagogue happens to be less than a mile away from my childhood home in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania. 
While I did not personally know any of the people who were killed, I knew many people who were directly connected to those who were impacted. 
 The daughter-in-law of one of the victims emerged from the ashes of this tragedy with the agenda to make a difference. 
 In memory and honor of her mother-in-law Joyce Feinberg, she created a program called 2 to the Seder, with the goal that Jewish people who were having the traditional Passover dinner invite at least 2 people to join them who were NOT Jewish. 
In her words, her goal was to push back on antisemitism with love. 
If people from different backgrounds can allow themselves to open up just a bit to connect with one another, might this help? 

 There is too much hate and prejudice in the world. We need to teach our children to do better. This idea completely resonated with me. 
The April following the shooting we opened the doors to our Seder. We were honored to have Muslims, Christians, Buddhists, Hindus, Amish, quite a few atheists. and of course some Jews. 
The conversations that we had that evening were fascinating. Passover is the holiday that celebrates the story of the Jewish people escaping from slavery in Egypt. 
The ritual dinner is called a Seder. For me the Seder is all about tradition. I feel the connection with generations past through the meal, story and the songs that have transcended thousands of years. 
I keep in mind that many Jews over the centuries risked their lives to have a seder when they were living in places where simply being identified as a Jew could be a death sentence. 
 It is also tradition for my husband to point out that the entire story is most likely completely fabricated, at which point I counter that the accuracy of the story isn’t what it is all about. 
It is about gathering with family, celebrating Spring and freedom, and having discussions about how we can end oppression for everyone. 
And of course, the Matzo Balls.
 He then acquiesces with the two little words that keep the marriage humming along - “yes dear.” 
 This holiday has certain smells that embrace me as I am preparing for it: Matzo Ball soup, horseradish, Manischewitz wine, apples and walnuts chopped up to make something called charoset that is meant to represent the mortar that the slaves used. 
I can feel the presence of my mother and grandmother as I putter in the kitchen. One of the parts of the seder is a song that is supposed to be sung by the youngest participant, Ma Nishtana ha Lila ha zeh? Why is this night different from all other nights? 

 While frankly eating matzo and drinking the traditional cloyingly sweet wine is fine for once a year, talking about freedom and oppression should NOT be a topic for just one night. There should not be an ‘Oppression Olympics.’ 
Antisemitism and bigotry are not just reserved for Jewish people. I understand that I have the privilege of being able to ‘blend in’ if I chose to, while most people of color cannot. This week, the country experienced yet another unfortunate display of racism and hatred, this time falling on the Asian community. 
Until everyone can be outside without fear of being belittled or harmed because of who they are, we have work to do. There are so many differences, races, faiths, genders, ages, sexual orientations, abilities, personalities.
 Underneath, we are human beings, mothers, fathers, siblings, grandparents, family members, friends, community members. We need to celebrate the differences instead of attacking them. 
 This year with COVID we are having a small family Seder. Next year, I hope once again to open my doors, have vibrant discussions and link with people from every walk of life. Happy Passover to all who celebrate.

Friday, March 19, 2021

Cleaning up made simple

This week's topic Cleaning up without the battle 

 Here is a post from several years ago that might help you out with your own version of Spring cleaning.
 If you start good habits early on, you will benefit on many levels... 

 Some time ago I had a phone chat with one of the moms of a patient, about some behavior issues. Her daughter was 2&1/2. 
At home, there was an unpleasant amount of parental nagging and child tantrums. Mom was astonished when she spent a few hours at her daughter’s daycare co-op. 
She watched in awe as the kids all immediately followed the request to clean up the toys. 
After lunch, this little group sat nicely, eating their healthy meal and then got up to clear their plates.

 What completely stunned this mom was watching all of the kids line up to compost whatever food scraps there were. Composting! Really?!? 

As she told me, this was a completely different child than the one she had living with her. This is a pretty good example of how important rules and consistency are. 

It is, in fact, not at all uncommon for kids to behave beautifully in some situations and completely act out in others.
 If rules are clear and simple, most kids will follow them. 
As long as rules are in the child’s best interest and reasonable, kids thrive in a consistent environment. Kids need to understand what the rules are. 
 If there are rewards/incentives what are they?
 What are the consequences for not following through? 
 Once the kids are old enough, have them be involved in negotiating the new “official guidelines.” 
What do they think would be a reasonable consequence. 
Are there certain incentives that they would like to work towards? 
 How can you implement this at home?  

Think small. Not everything has to be regimented but let’s address one common area of conflict, such as cleaning up toys, and make it simple. 
 Easier said than done, but try to have an organized system so that putting toys away is straightforward. Know where they came from so that they can be returned to where they belong.
 If you can’t do that, you possibly have too many toys and you should take some of them out of circulation. 
 Large toy boxes/trunks are okay for really large items, but they tend to become a dumping ground. You are better off investing in shelves with different bins. 
Low shelves are for toys that kids can have easy access to. 
Have a designated high shelf area for setting aside toys that need adult involvement. 
 Take a photo of the toy that lives in the bin and glue the image on.
 This can be a family project. (Great rainy day activity!)
 Maybe the picture can include your child holding the toy. 
There can be a box for little cars, a box for dolls, a box for crayons...etc. 
Perhaps have a rule about only 2 or 3 boxes being down at a time until your child shows you that they can manage cleaning up more of a variety. 
 Sorting can be a game. 
Give a transition time: “Ten minutes until clean up." 
“Five minutes until clean up." 

 Some kids may do well with a timer. Everyone needs to understand what the new clean up rules are. When playtime is over, it is time to do the full clean up. 
Put on some music or have a clean up song. 
 Children have a set amount of minutes to put the toys away. 
While you might start by helping out and setting a good example, the ultimate goal is that your kids can do this on their own. 
Make sure that they are doing most of the work. 
When the time is up, make sure you give positive feedback. The toys are safe and ready for the next time they want to play with them. 
If they did NOT clean up, now it is your turn. Anything that you clean up is yours to do with as you please. You can put it high up where the kids don’t have access until they agree to do a better job cleaning up. 

Tell some stories about children who did a good job cleaning up. Parents were so proud! Their toys stayed safe and organized. 
Tell a parallel story about a less successful outcome. Parents ended up doing the clean up and the toys went high up and away. This process eliminates potential sources of nagging: These are the clean up rules; they are clear and simple. Cleaning up is easy. It takes a few minutes. It can even be fun! Kids remain in control of the toys that they put away. Or mommy/daddy can clean up but the toys are gone for a while. Many of our kids have so much stuff (mine were no exception) that you may wish to consider rotating toys.

 If you take something out of circulation for a while it might feel new and fresh when you bring it back. Doing a toy swap with friends is another good way to have an assortment of things to play with that feel new and exciting. Keep in mind that some kids are rougher than others. Don’t lend out anything that you care too much about. It may not come back in the same shape that it went out! 

As Marie Kondo from the popular Netflix series would say, it if doesn't bring you joy, get rid of it. Start small, be clear and consistent, and problem solve so that you don't end up in nagging cycles, to kids who ignore you. Who knows, the next step might be composting!

Friday, March 12, 2021

Eczema management 2021

Eczema/Atopic Dermatitis 
 Kids get a lot of rashes, but the most common diagnosis is probably eczema. 
This is one of those topics that I routinely get questions about year round. It doesn’t appear to have a season. 
 The term eczema is broadly applied to a range of persistent skin conditions. 
There seems to be a hereditary component so it is pretty common for eczema to run in families.
 One piece of good news is that some kids can grow out of it! Some babies have buttery soft skin. Others are not so lucky. 
My patients with the diagnosis of eczema generally have fairly dry skin with rough patches. 
 Learning some basic facts about the skin can help you understand what is going on and how to deal with it. 
For the data nerds among you, the next paragraph is for you; for the rest of you, sorry if this makes your head spin... 
 The top layer of the skin is called the epidermis and the top layer of the epidermis is called the stratum corneum (SC). The SC is incredibly thin but it is the main barrier of the skin. It keeps chemicals that come in contact with the skin from being absorbed into the body, and it keeps fluid inside the skin from leaching out. The SC contains 3 types of lipids that have different chemical compositions and functions; ceramides, cholesterol and free fatty acids. But it gets even more complicated. There are nine different types of ceramides in the SC, conveniently named ceramide 1 through ceramide 9, and they account for 40-50% of the lipids in this outermost layer. Scientists are doing a lot of research on the important function that ceramides play. What they are now discovering is that people with eczema have significantly fewer ceramides in the SC than folks with healthy skin. (Don’t worry there won’t be a test on this.) 

 Skin Care
The obvious focus is to try to re-balance and add back some of those deficient ceramides. Thus, the key to treating basic eczema is moisturizing! Well lubricated skin does not get as itchy and doesn’t break down as easily. It is important to moisturize at least once a day, (twice a day is better!) but there is no downside to greasing up your kid more often than that. It is really important to break that itch cycle. 
Aside from causing misery, scratching can tear the skin, and an infection can occur. 

There are some very good products that can make a big difference. Dr. Lawrence Cheung is my go to dermatologist. He lists the following products as some of his favorites: 
 Cetaphil Restoraderm Cerave Hydrating Cleanser and Moisturizing Cream Aveeno Eczema Therapy.

 Dr. Cheung particularly likes this Aveeno product for hands. With people washing their hands more than ever these days, the dry hands can tend to get rashy.
 The Aveeno does a great job of protecting that can last through several washes. 
 Eucerin and Vaniply are a few other good brands. 

Read the labels and make sure that ceramides are on the list of ingredients. 

 If you like home remedies, my sister-in-law Barbara swears by coconut oil mixed with a bit of tea tree oil. 
A local pediatrician, Dr. Jessica Kaplan, advocates the “greased pajama” method. Put the jammies on right after applying the moisturizer. The pajamas will be a little greasy. As long as they stay clean otherwise, wear those for several nights in a row. 

 People used to recommend infrequent bathing, but it turns out that this is a myth. 
If your child likes their bath, you can give one as often as you like. 
Baths are fine, but sitting in soapy water for extended periods is not such a good idea. 
Let them do their “fun in the tub” session for most of the bath first and then do the actual washing and rinsing with gentle soap and shampoo right before getting out. 

Bubble baths and harsh soaps are pretty high on my list of suspects when I am sleuthing around for the cause of a rash. 
 Some folks find that adding a splash of apple cider vinegar to the bath water (about ¼ - ½ cup for a big tub) is soothing and may even prevent some rashes. 

 Do you have some extra breast milk leftover that is out of the safety range for feeding?
 Dump it in the tub! Milk baths are great for the skin.
 If the eczema is severe, believe it or not, a bleach bath is often recommended by many dermatologists. Here are important steps for giving a bleach bath: 
 Use regular strength (6 percent) bleach for the bath. 
Do not use concentrated bleach. 
 Use plain bleach; avoid those with various scents added. 
 Use a measuring cup or measuring spoon to add the bleach to the bath. 
Adding too much bleach to the bath can irritate your children’s skin. Adding too little bleach may not help. 
 Measure the amount of bleach before adding it to the bath water. For a full bathtub of water, use a half cup of bleach.
 For a half-full tub of water, add a quarter cup of bleach. 
For a baby or toddler bathtub, add one teaspoon of bleach per gallon of water. 

Obviously these are approximate measurements since baths will have varying amounts of water. Never apply bleach directly to your child’s eczema. While the tub is filling, pour the bleach into the water. Be sure to wait until the bath is fully drawn and bleach is poured before your child enters the tub. 

 Talk with your dermatologist about how long your child should soak in the tub. Most dermatologists recommend a five to 10 minute soak. All baths should be followed up immediately with some lotion!!!


 Identify Triggers 
 I tend to refer to atopic dermatitis as ‘reactive skin’. 
It will be under control for a while and then something will come along and ‘flare’ it up. I refer to these as triggers. 

Playing detective and learning to recognize what triggers are aggravating the rash is another important key to management. 
 Triggers can range from changes in temperature, dry air from heating the house, a new detergent, teething or a new food. 
Acidic foods seem to be a big culprit for some kids. 
Berries and citrus are big offenders. 
Dairy and eggs are way up on the list as well. 
When food sensitivity is to blame you will often see chapped cheeks and a red ring around the anal area. 

 Treat inflammation 
 There is absolutely no downside to lots of moisturizing and/ or eliminating the triggers that are flaring up the eczema. But if those measures are not taking care of things, it is really important to take steps to minimize inflammation. 
Think of it in this way - a mild rash is like embers; add inflammation and it becomes a wildfire.
 Once you have an actual fire, the entire body becomes more reactive and even more food reactivity can take place. 
I like to take the natural route as much as possible, but sometimes it is necessary to use medication or topical creams. 
Don’t hesitate to treat and ‘put out the embers before things get out of control’. 
 As I already mentioned, it is essential to minimize itching. 
If your child is doing a lot of scratching, they can break through the skin; infection and inflammation ensue. 
Make sure you keep their nails trimmed to minimize damage to the skin from the scratching. 
 Your doctor will likely suggest an antihistamine. Zyrtec (cetirizine) and Benadryl (diphenhydramine) are the two main brands that we tend to use. 
Benadryl is shorter acting. Most of the time it makes the kids sleepy, but once in a while it has the opposite effect (not something you want to find out at night.) 
Zyrtec is longer lasting and doesn’t tend to cause either the sleepiness or the jitters. 
Although the label will warn you to check with your MD if your child is under 2 years, most pediatricians have no hesitation giving Zyrtec or Benadryl to kids as young as 6 months if necessary.

Both of these  come in a liquid form. There are dosage charts at the bottom of the post. 
 Hydrocortisone creams or ointments can also be used to spot treat especially itchy areas. Start with the weaker over-the-counter strength. 
If that isn’t helping, it would be a good idea to have a doctor take a look.

 There are several options of different prescription strength ointments, creams and oils that can be tried. Most of the time simple eczema can be handled by your pediatrician's office. 

Once in a while complicated cases that are not responding to treatment may end up at the dermatologist. If the eczema is mild to moderate and not responding to simple moisturizing and OTC hydrocortisone, there are prescription medications available that range from topical to injection options and even phototherapy. 
Dr. Cheung mentioned to me that there are all sorts of new treatments now available, with more coming within the next couple of years. 
For severe cases, it is absolutely worth seeing a dermatologist who is current with updated treatment options.

 If you like to think out of the box, I have seen some patients have a big improvement in their skin from some treatments from the folks at Advanced Allergy Solutions. 
They are not the magic wand for everyone, but have been very helpful for many of my patients. 
 There are also some ongoing studies about gut health and eczema; it makes sense that there is a connection. 
The studies are speculating that probiotics containing Lactobacillus might be helpful, but there are no official guidelines yet.
 For your little ones who are eating solid foods, adding fermented foods, and decreasing sugar are easy and worthwhile things to consider. 

 In summary: 
 Keep your child moisturized daily with one of the recommended lotions or creams 
 Make sure your kids nails are kept short. 
Infants can have little mittens on their hands at night if they are doing a lot of scratching. 
 See if you can figure out what the triggers are and avoid them. Sometimes it is simply cutting out berries. 
 Zyrtec and Benadryl are fine for itching but don’t treat the underlying cause. 
 Don’t be hesitant about treatment.
 In a risk/benefit calculation, taking appropriate steps to decrease the inflammation is the right thing to do 

 Zyrtec Dosage Chart The dose of cetirizine depends on age as below: 
6 - 12 months of age: 2.5 mg given once daily (maximum dose 5 mg daily) 
12 - 24 months of age: 2.5 given once or twice daily (maximum dose 5 mg daily) 
2 - 6 years of age: 2.5 - 5 mg given once daily (maximum dose 5 mg daily) 
Over 6 years of age: 5 - 10 mg given once daily (maximum dose 10 mg daily)
 Zyrtec comes in a 1mg/ml solution (so 2.5 mg = 2.5 ml). There is also a 10mg/ml oral drops preparation (so 5 mg is 1/2 ml). 
Make sure you check the strength of the solution.

Friday, February 12, 2021

Heavy Metals in Baby Food

If you have listened to any news these past couple of weeks, you have likely heard the story about the findings of unsafe levels of toxins in baby foods. 
What’s it all about? 
 Due to pollution, soil where the foods are grown can be contaminated with heavy metals.
 If you are a science nerd, the ones most commonly identified as an issue are lead, chromium, arsenic, zinc, cadmium, copper, mercury and nickel. 
These metals usually accumulate as a result of emissions from industrial areas, leaded gasoline and paints, some fertilizers, manures, sewage and pesticides to name just a few of the culprits. 
Even though we are no longer using leaded gasoline or lead based paints the damage has been done.

 Most metals don’t undergo degradation so they stay in the ground or water for a long, long time. Pollution in the air or water makes its way into the soil or into our rivers and oceans. 
When these toxins end up in the water, we can see this impact by measuring the levels found in the fish that we eat. 
 When they end up in the soil, they can be absorbed by food. 
Some foods are more susceptible than others. 

 At least we have started to make some changes here in this country. For example, we no longer use leaded gasoline and some industrial regulations have been put into place. 
The fact is that many of our regulations are too little too late. 
Even if our home grown foods were perfectly safe, which they aren't, many products are imported from countries who are not even beginning to enact any effective regulation. 
Trying to feed our children and ourselves clean food is stressful! 
 Knowing that we have issues with some of these contaminants isn’t new. 
Many people already limit certain fish due to mercury. 
We have been educated about the dangerous impact lead exposure can have on our children. 
We routinely get our kids tested to make sure the lead levels aren’t elevated. 
 Arsenic wasn’t something that most of us were paying attention to at all until the elevated arsenic levels in organic brown rice syrup created a media sensation several years ago. 
But it appears that even though concerns about unsafe levels were identified, current studies clearly indicate that not enough was being done. 
 To make things worse, many of the brands listed in these allegations are the ones that parents have counted on for generations to provide safe quality products. 
It is very frustrating that even with the changes that have been implemented, it is still evident that they were not enough. 
At the very least, customers should have been informed that mitigating these concerns was still a work in progress.
 I think it is perfectly reasonable to feel angry and betrayed. 
Go ahead; get good and mad. But then let it out and take a deep breath and release it. 

It is not helpful for you to hold in all that negative energy. 
Turn it into action. 
You can choose to no longer give these companies your business. 
Done! 
 What I wish you wouldn’t feel is guilt. 
Assuming your children have consumed some of these products, I am guessing that you made the best choices that you could based on the information that you had. 
We don’t know what we don’t know and we can’t manage the past, so as hard as it might be, please forgive yourself. 
 I think that it is actually very beneficial that this information is surfacing so that we can make healthier choices moving forward. 
See if you can take any anxiety that you are feeling and channel it into a resolve to take positive action.

 What choices can you make now that you have this information? 
 Alas, while going organic can minimize pesticide exposure it doesn’t have much impact on the heavy metals. 
 Pay attention to the biggest culprits. Rice cereal is one of the biggest offenders. Brown rice has some nutritional advantages but white rice is the safer option. 
The heavy metals absorbed into the food from soil are going to impact the surface of the food the most. White rice is processed to remove that outer bran layer. 
If you are cooking your own rice, start with a little more water than called for and then do an extra rinse. This can help decrease potential toxins significantly. 
Rice has nutritional benefits and by no means needs to be completely removed from your diet. 

As I have been saying in my solid foods class for years, some amount of rice cereal is fine, I just wouldn’t give it daily. 
Variety is beneficial. 
Be a label reader - organic rice syrup is an ingredient found in many snacks. 
 Sweet potatoes and carrots are two popular veggies that have been found to absorb the highest amounts of the heavy metals. They still have some worthy nutrition, I certainly think there is room for them in a healthy diet. 
Just like the rice, the outer part is going to be the place that has absorbed the highest level of the metals. Deep peeling can help a lot. 

 Fruit juices are also on the list. This one is easy. No kid really needs to be drinking juice. That being said, of course, the occasional bit of juice is not something to stress over. 

 Certain nutrients may offer protection. 
Antioxidants can help prevent absorption of toxins. 
It has been well documented that lead doesn’t absorb as well if a diet is high in iron and vitamin C. 
This is true for the other heavy metals as well. 
 Making sure that you give your kids adequate fluids is great for flushing out the system. 
 Variety is important. 
Make sure you switch things up and offer a large assortment of foods, rather than eating the same thing over and over.

 In conclusion, I don’t know of many adults who got through their childhood without partaking of these same products, and we all seem to have survived. Having some exposure to these heavy metals is not ideal, but at a mild to moderate level it is absolutely not something I want you to panic about. We can’t live in a bubble (although during covid, some of you might dispute this.) As with all things, simply do the best you can. If you like more data on this subject, check out this article written by my colleague, the wonderful Dr. Ted from Oath.

Friday, February 5, 2021

Covid/ One year later


It was a year ago that I was doing my first post about COVID. Always with an ear out for items in the news that could cause worry for my patients, I was on alert. Over the years it was not unusual for a virus to circulate that made the news. Measles outbreaks, West Nile, Ebola, Zika, even one called enterovirus D-68 that most of you probably don’t even remember (that one was a cousin to Polio and caused some paralysis). These were terrifying, but in terms of actual threat to our Bay Area families, were soon enough in the rear view mirror.

If I ever claim to have some psychic abilities, that ESP was nowhere to be found when it came to covid. At the very least, I would have bought extra toilet paper. My initial covid post from last year warned families to be prepared in the unlikely event that we might need to do the unthinkable and quarantine for a couple of weeks. Wow, what a difference a year makes.
So many of us had plans to travel, tickets to shows, weddings and events on our calendars. It was unfathomable that everything would be put on hold, but 2020 put us in uncharted territory

It is fair to say that we have found ourselves in a brand new landscape.

  • The horrors of the shocking numbers of cases, deaths and chronic consequences.
  • The staggering economic hardships of so many people who have lost jobs and livelihoods 
  • Frightening number of people who maintain that the virus is a hoax...WTF!
  • The isolation of people who are living alone and the sadness of family and friends who are not able to be together.

Sigh.

For anyone reading this, congratulations on making it through a very difficult year. For all of the difficulties and sadness some moments of light have floated through.

Zoom...who had even heard of it? Yes we can all get zoom fatigue, but I have had routine zoom sessions with friends and family near and far. Now I gather once a month virtually with my 98 year old uncle and cousins. More and more extended family members join in the call and it is lovely. We fill our screens with old family photos and take advantage of uncle Melvin’s remarkably sharp memory while he identifies the people in the pictures and regales us with tales.

Working at home in your pajama bottoms and bare feet.

Your pets are thrilled to have you around all day.

Many people have taken up new hobbies. The tap dancing classes that I took from a friend only lasted for several weeks, but I have been playing piano more than I have in years. My son-in-law Adam has perfected his sourdough bread!

Flu numbers are unusually low for this time of year. Pediatrician’s offices are seeing way less of common colds and viruses. No doubt this is in part thanks to the social distancing, masks and hand washing.

So what’s next?

The promise of vaccination is already here for many, and within the next several months for many more. It will no doubt take some time to get everyone protected but at least there is some hope in sight.

While we are making progress, this is the proverbial two steps forward, one step backwards. Alas, as promising as the vaccine is, covid is a wily virus and new strains are popping up. Some of those newer and more contagious strains have recently been identified in the Bay Area. Until there is herd immunity, even with the vaccination, wise people will continue to mask up and continue with social distancing until the public health experts spread the message that we can get back to normal. We simply can not afford to get quarantine fatigue.

Here are some of the quarantine related blog posts that I have done this year:








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Friday, January 29, 2021

Basic Butt Care/Diaper Rash

Basic Butt Care/Diaper Rash

There is nothing quite as cute as a baby’s little butt and nothing quite as sad as when that cute little tush is covered with a rash. With any rash, it is worth playing detective to see if there is an obvious source. A new diaper brand, a diaper that is too tight, a new soap or detergent can all be culprits. Believe it or not, once your little one is old enough to be eating solids, acidic foods such as citrus and/or berries seem to be connected with diaper rash flare ups. 

But the fact is, most diaper irritations are simply caused by your baby's delicate skin being in contact with irritating stool and urine. Even with the most careful parents, rashes happen.

It is much easier to prevent a rash than to treat it, so it is worth some effort to avoid rashes in the first place. The basics of prevention include:

  • Change the diaper frequently.
  • Use alcohol free wipes that don’t have added scents.


After the wiping, I like to blot the damp skin with a tissue, this helps make sure that the area is completely dry. That simple tissue can also find leftover pieces of poop that were hiding in the creases. You would be amazed what is lurking in all the little crevices. You will see that the tissue will actually stick to the skin when it is still tacky from being wiped. Keep gently tapping the tissue until it no longer sticks.

Some people use a warm hair dryer to get the skin dry. Both methods work well.

Having some ‘diaper off time’ and letting the tush get some air is key. Give your little one some time with no diaper for several sessions a day. Babies are less likely to fuss for this if they are kept warm, so try to have a cozy place for this to happen. Lauren and Adam actually blew some warm air from the hair dryer on baby Elliot the other day during some ‘air time’ and he seemed to love it. The combination of the noise and the warm air kept him pretty happy. A short session of indirect sunshine through a window is also beneficial if you have the opportunity.

Of course your little one is going to take this opportunity to pee and poop all over the place. Using the blue absorbent pads (you can actually get them from a pet store) or a towel can help contain any mess. Have a washcloth or a pee-pee teepee handy. Don’t underestimate the ability of poop to squirt impressive distances. Boys of course are the most likely sprayers, but don’t count out your little daughters in their ability to make a mess.

Another good preventive measure is to add a splash of apple cider vinegar to the bath water. I don't have an exact amount because tubs vary greatly, but somewhere around a ¼ cup for a normal tub full of water.

Keep your baby well hydrated; concentrated urine is more irritating.

You may hear diaper creams also referred to as a barrier cream; this is simply because they are creating a barrier between the skin and the irritating pee or poop.

Once your baby is giving you a longer stretch at night, I would suggest that it is now time to start automatically applying a barrier cream. For preventive care I don't have a favorite, there are lots of wonderful brands. The Environmental Working Group, EWG, is always a good source of information. They have rated some of their favorites. They do a deep dive into every ingredient and rank them accordingly:


Dr. Den’s  favorite is one called Emily Diaper Soother. If you are local, you can get it directly from her.

My daughter Lauren really likes Tubby Todd. It is a bit pricey, but it works really well for Elliot


If you already are dealing with a rash and the cream that you are using isn’t doing the trick, here are some options that I especially like:

Bag Balm is a standout, with a good rating from EWG. Originally used by farmers to soothe cows irritated udders, I have seen it clear up some stubborn rashes with remarkable success. Another favorite of mine that is not quite as highly rated by EWG, but is still fine to use is Calmoseptine. This is a cream originally used for ostomy care. I have found it very effective for some of the more raw skin situations.

You can also make your own concoction by mixing together an assortment of ingredients. I learned about this from an old baby nurse that I worked with in a NICU back in NY. This is especially helpful for rashes that appear to be associated with food sensitivity or teething.

Take a clean container and add equal parts:

  • Thick white paste of your choice (Desitin/ Zinc/ butt paste)
  • Clear stuff of your choice (Aquaphor/ A%D ointment/ shea butter)
  • A squirt of a liquid antacid such as Maalox or Mylanta

You may have heard of a prescription cream called APNO (all purpose nipple cream.) This is a combo of antifungal/ antibiotic and a steroid cream. When I was working at Noe Valley Pediatrics we would have our local Walgreen’s compound this for the most severe rashes. A rash that is severe enough to require this, also likely needs an appointment to evaluate it first.

Beyond the common diaper dermatitis, there are some other potential causes.

Once in a while a rash can be caused by yeast. Yeast thrives in warm, dark moist areas. It is no surprise that a diaper area (and nursing bra) is the perfect breeding ground. 

Yeasty rashes can look very spotty or very red with distinct borders. They also like the creases and can spread outside of the diaper area. The prevention and treatment are similar to the ways we would treat a standard diaper rash. The air and apple cider vinegar are even more important but usually not quite enough to get rid of it. For suspected yeast I am going to add an antifungal cream to the mix.
Over the counter creams such as Lotrimin (used to treat athlete’s foot and jock itch) is fine. There is not a baby version. 

After the air time, add a thin layer of the antifungal cream and follow with whatever protective cream you prefer. Do this three times a day. It takes a week or so to get rid of it completely, but you should start to see a difference within a day or so if you are on the right track.

Some rashes get so raw that the poor little bottoms bleed.
I would put a thin layer of Neosporin on any open, sore areas, also three times a day (sometimes it feels like a little paint by numbers kit...a little of this here, and a little of that there.) If there is absolutely no improvement after a couple of days, it is worth having an evaluation.

Your doctor will most likely always want to see any diaper rash that is pimply or oozy. Some very red diaper rashes are caused by bacteria. Strep is the biggest culprit for this.

One more thing to consider. Evivo is a probiotic that is given to the baby. They have some impressive clinical data that shows that Evivo reduces bad gut bacteria by 80% and restores the baby’s natural fecal PH. 72% of mom’s using it report a decrease in diaper rash.

Okay, get that tushy out for some air ( sorry about your carpet!)


If you need some more diaper changing tips. Check out this previous post.


The photo on top is courtesy of Jake and Shachar's baby Noam's epic poop episode that actually got the walls and the lamp. Don't say you haven't been warned.

Friday, January 22, 2021

No matter how much help you have, no matter how perfect your baby is, being a new parent is HARD!

No matter how much help you have, no matter how perfect your baby is, being a new parent is HARD!

 Little black bug, little black bug where have you been? I’ve been under the rug, said the little black bug… Lauren and I were sitting together as she nursed her newborn. My first grandchild.

 She was telling me that she had been singing the songs that my mom used to sing to her and that it made her cry. As she told me that, tears were welling up in her eyes. So, I also got weepy and we sat there letting the feelings in and crying together about the people that we were missing. 

 Lauren is a lucky mom. She has a wonderful supportive husband who takes initiative and doesn’t wait to be asked. She has two sets of grandparents, and other close family who are in her COVID bubble and have been all hands on deck. Everyone is happy to hold the baby and give her and Adam a break whenever they need it. 

She has more support than most, especially during COVID. What’s remarkable is that, even with all these resources... IT IS STILL HARD! 
 She has the “Nurse Judy Network”, where her baby has been treated like royalty and guess what? IT IS STILL HARD! 
 She has plenty of milk and her baby got back to birth weight the first week. IT IS STILL HARD

 Nursing is challenging. It is not intuitive. Getting the baby to latch works well one moment, but is tricky the next. 
 Not being able to sleep longer than a 3 hour stretch is exhausting. Hormones are a force to be reckoned with.

 All new parents need support. That is where Oath comes in https://www.oathcare.com/
 I can’t sit by you in your nursery, but I can be right there when you have a question about spit up, poop, purple feet, hiccups ... you get the idea. 

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It is a place to cheer each other on as well as a safe place to be messy and vulnerable when things are feeling a bit overwhelming. 

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We are continually adding to our panel of experts. Oh, yes...then there is me, the advice nurse, helping you figure out when to worry and when things are perfectly normal. 

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 If you are pregnant or know of someone who is expecting, I think you will find joining Oath incredibly valuable. This also makes a great baby shower gift! If you already have young children (our current groups are for 3 years and younger) please click the link to join the waitlist, so that we can match you with the perfect group. A value of $500, the Oath membership is only $19.50/month. Such a deal. Enter the promo code NURSEJUDY for a free month I would love to see you in one of the Oath circles.