Friday, December 19, 2014

Taking your infant out into this Non sterile world


When is it okay to take a newborn baby out into the germy world?

This is one of those questions that gets a lot of strong and differing opinions from anyone you ask. The only opinion that counts in the end is that of you and your partner. All the well meaning friends, family and healthcare professionals can only advise. It is up to you to pick a path that feels right for you.

The discussion with new parents about when it is safe to take the baby out and about and risk exposure to crowds comes up quite a bit. It is an especially popular question this time of year with holiday celebrations and gatherings.  I don't always have the same answer each time.

It is often not a black and white case and we end up trying to identify all the considerations specific to your situation. There is a vast difference between a single parent taking the baby with them to get some food, and the choice to take a newborn out to a crowded concert. Sadly, I recently had to tell the parents of a 3 day old that I thought taking them to one of the World Series games was a VERY bad idea (they heeded my advice, and no I didn't get the tickets.)

Travel questions come up a lot. I would rather avoid having a super young baby on a full airplane flight but some travel is worth the risk. I would likely say "go for it"  to a baby going to see aging great-grandparents, or to a once in a lifetime family event like a wedding. I would say "are you absolutely nuts???" to a family taking an infant to a beach vacation in Mexico.

These of course are my opinions. Parents get to make their own choices.
What time of year is it? Are there any active viruses circulating? We are just coming into the winter cold and flu season. I am going to be stricter in my recommendations this month. RSV is actively going around. I want my newborns safe.

Here are some factors to consider.

Babies are the most vulnerable the first 6-8 weeks of life. If one of these young babies gets a fever, it is going to be taken very seriously by any doctor that they encounter. In an emergency room, a fever in a young baby will most likely trigger diagnostic testing such as blood work, urine catheter, x-ray and even a spinal tap.
If in fact that baby has a serious infection, early intervention can be life saving, so the doctors aren't kidding around. No one wants to put their baby through that.
I have a very different standard when dispensing advice about the under two month crowd. Any fever gets my attention. That two month old check up and first set of vaccines is a significant milestone.

I know that many new parents get cabin fever, but whenever possible, keep your newborn away from any circumstance that may expose them to anyone who is sick. In general crowds should be avoided. If someone is coming to the house to visit make sure they are healthy before they come in. If they feel like they may be coming down with something, they are not doing you any favors. If you have family staying with you, ideally they have gotten the TDaP and Flu vaccines already. Unfortunately the Flu vaccine this year may have missed the mark and an early look at the Flu cases so far indicates that even if you have had the shot you may not be as protected as we would hope.
In any case, it does take a week or so for immunity to take effect. Better late than never. I prefer that anyone who is planning on spending time with your baby to be vaccinated. Send them over to Walgreen's for the shots as soon as possible if they haven't gotten around to it. As long as visitors appear healthy and are more help than hindrance, don't hesitate to take advantage of your support network even if they haven't gotten the shots yet. Good hand washing is essential.

First time parents have the luxury of protecting and isolating the baby and should take advantage. That being said, in my opinion, a walk outside on a lovely day is usually perfectly fine for even the most conservative family

Second kids are a different story by necessity.  They are often born into the situation where they have a loving, snotty nosed older sibling that wants to kiss and handle them from the start. These babies generally get exposed to things much earlier. Anyone who has multiple kids can tell you that it is really sad watching the young babies struggling with their first illness.

When making these types of decisions what are your actual options? Sometimes they are limited, in which case you simply do the best you can.
Use your best judgement!

Friday, November 28, 2014

Problem solving skills

Strange stuff happens to my daughter Alana all the time. Folks that know her refer to her life as "Alana Land". Aspects of this range from winning an incomprehensible percentage of raffles to creating lasting friendships with random people that she meets on public transportation. Once, as she walked to Muni after her late night shift working at the suicide hot-line, an odd procession of old men playing Dixieland jazz music followed her for several blocks on the otherwise empty streets When she got to the station, they tipped their hats and veered away. So, when I got a text from her earlier this week telling me that she had the "weirdest evening ever" I couldn't wait to hear the tale.

Alana is currently living in Ann Arbor working on her Masters in Social Work. She shares a house with 5 other grad students. The other night the doorbell rang and one of her housemates opened the door to find an "old woman" there having trouble breathing. His idea of problem solving was to holler for Alana who appeared and took over.

Among the things this stranger was saying was that although she was not a religious person, God had told her to come to this house where she would get help. She also talked about wanting to kill herself. Alana managed to calm her down, get contact info for family members, contact the social work department at the hospital, and ultimately get this woman to an emergency room. There are a lot of adults who would have found this overwhelming.

Since we all can work on our problem solving skills, in honor of her handling that situation so well, I am updating and rerunning this post from last year.

What  would you do if?
I have been doing these little weekly emails for just about 2 years now. Some posts are clearly more relevant to parents with young children while others are much more applicable to older children. Some are more global and your child's age doesn't matter so much. This is the latter.

Today's topic is a about an important activity that you can do with your child that teaches them to be "problem solvers".

Although at first glance it may seem targeted to parents with older children, in fact everyone could learn from it. Adults need to learn to be problem solvers also. Some are much better at this than others. For instance, if you got in a fender bender, what would you do? Many folks would just freeze and panic. What should you do?

*Assess for injury' call 911 if needed
*Know where your insurance info is
*Take a photo of any damage
*Take a photo of the other driver's insurance card and drivers license...etc.
*Always have a charger in your car for your cell phone so that a low battery is never an issue.

Having a plan in advance could help you stay calm. That is the main theme of this post.

Years ago, the concept that everyone would carry around an individual cell phone seemed as futuristic as the communicators on Star Trek. Now, of course it is hard to imagine how we got along without them. It was, however, the lack of the cell phone that prompted me to create a game that became a favorite in our family.

It must have been 1994 and I was on my way to pick up Alana from preschool. She was about 4 years old at the time. It was one of those days. I was uncharacteristically running late. Then, I got stuck in terrible traffic. To compound things, I took some random turns to try to work around the congestion and ended up utterly lost. (Remember that this was also before Google maps or GPS)  My stomach was in a knot and I wondered what my younger daughter would do when mommy was late picking her up.

It turned out that she was calmly waiting for me in the office, but that was the day that the "what would you do if" game was created.

It went something like this:
I would ask a question such as, "What should you do if mommy is late picking you up? What are some of the choices? Which is the best one?"

Getting a teacher or trusted grown up to wait with her or take her to the office was clearly the right answer and I praised her for figuring that out on her own.

Alana loved this game. We created all sorts of situations

" What if we were at a store and you couldn't find me?
Alana.." I would go to the check out and ask them to page you"
We never made it too simple...
Mommy :"What if they refused?"
Alana :"I would demand to talk to the manager"

Our scenarios covered any number of little emergencies including earthquakes, fires, and getting lost or separated. We didn't cover the "what would you do if a strange, suicidal old woman shows up at your door?"  It turns out that the better you are at problem solving, the easier it gets to improvise.

This game came in handy more than once. The shining example that comes to mind happened after years of playing this game. Alana and I were walking the dog on the beach one day. I had donated blood earlier that morning and didn't realize how foolish I was for doing anything strenuous. I got very light headed and ended up down on the sand trying hard not to completely pass out. Alana was ten at the time and she went right into problem solving mode. We did have cell phones at this point. She got the dog on the leash, patted some water on my forehead and calmly called daddy. I could vaguely hear her talking. "Mommy fainted...I think she is okay"

The game was such a success that my sister taught it to her kids. Hers had an interesting spin because they lived in Alaska at the time:

"What would you do if you saw a bear?"
"What would you do if a Moose wanders into the yard?"

There were actually times when these things happened, and my nephews were able to act calmly and appropriately!

Topics can range from handling a bully to getting separated on Muni. Being prepared for unexpected situations can be invaluable.

If your child finds themselves without you and in need of assistance, finding a grown up wearing a uniform is often a valid option for some of the difficult situations. Finding a parent who has a child with them and asking them for help, might be another safe option.

This game is meant to empower. It is wonderful for some kids, but could be terrifying for others. You need to assess your child's temperament before playing. Either way, identify a problem or situation. Start with simple, less scary ones. Discuss all the possible solutions and then agree what the best plan should be for any given situation.

Stressful situations happen. Teaching your child to take a deep breath and use their problem solving skills is one of those things you can do now that can have lasting implications for them when they grow up.

Even teaching a very young child to dial 911 in an emergency can be life saving!

You have to figure out if this will be empowering for your child as it was for Alana. My daughter Lauren never liked to play it. In fact, I remember one day when Lauren and I were taking a walk, I tripped on something, stumbled and fell. I was perfectly fine, but Lauren's reaction was to start screaming. I think she was ten at the time. As she says, "mommies aren't allowed to fall". Every kid is different.
 
As your child grows, the situations that you might want to bring up will increase in scope.
Just this month a child right in Noe Valley avoided a potential kidnapping situation by making good choices in that terrifying situation.

I think that the "what would you do" exercise is actually something that you might want to do with a nanny or caretaker. Having them be able to manage a crisis with a clear head is essential.

I want to add one more tidbit here. What if you lost your cell phone or it ran out of batteries and you don't have a charger? Do you know important phone numbers, or do you count on speed dial. Having a list of important numbers in an accessible place is a good idea for everyone.

Preparation is power.


Friday, November 7, 2014

Temper Tantrums





It is  the rare parent who hasn't had to deal with the occasional tantrum.
Here are a few tips for managing them.

When you are a parent, imagine that you are the coach of a football team. Keep in mind that most of the coaching takes place before and after the games. Your team may win big or they might completely screw up. During the game you are mostly just a spectator. Leading up to the game you strive to prepare your players the best you can. After the game you can be the Monday morning quarterback and identify ways to improve.

I have found it very  helpful for parents if they can recognize the difference between "game time" and "coaching opportunities." If we follow my theory, transition times, mealtimes, getting out of the house in the mornings and bedtimes are considered game time. You can't do any effective coaching or teaching during these moments. Hopefully you have created  a "game plan" so that generally things go smoothly. When you encounter a situation that sets off a tantrum, do your best to just get through it as calmly and creatively as you can. If you notice that you are stuck in a rut and you can identify routine behavioral issues, you need to work on creating a new plan.

Here's an example of a "game time" situation. Many years ago I was a solo parent on a flight, returning home from grandparent visit/family visit. My sister Marjie had bestowed each of my daughters with a "my little pony" gift to entertain themselves on the flight. Alana the two year old had chosen the pink one, and Lauren the five year old was happy with the blue one. Mid way through the long flight, Alana wanted to make a trade. Lauren, wasn't interested and quite within her rights she soundly refused. Alana was usually a fairly mild mannered child, but I could see the tantrum brewing and she was about to cause a serious disruption. I did a quick negotiation with Lauren: "Hand over the blue pony now, and we get home they are both yours." Lauren took only a second or two to recognize the value of this and gave Alana the blue pony. Crisis averted. This wasn't the moment to teach about sharing, or fairness. This was game time. Get off that plane intact. If we had been at home I may have handled it quite differently.  It is absurd to think that you will handle a tantrum in the middle of a crowded public area the same way you would in your home. Home field advantage???

Watch for clues and do your best to ward off an impending tantrum if the warning signs are clear, but once your child has already entered the meltdown zone, it is time to change tactics. There is a popular parenting book that counsels parents to get down on the child's level and loudly evoke their inner caveman by chanting "You are mad, you are mad,  you are mad mad mad!" When that book first came out, I would routinely hear parents out in our waiting room making more of a racket than the fussing kids. I must confess, that when I still hear the occasional parent grunting "you are mad" I do roll my eyes a little bit, but the premise is actually a solid one. When your kid is having a tantrum, acknowledging that you are trying to understand what is going on in the first step.
"You seem mad, sad, frustrated etc"  are often exactly what your child needs to hear.
If you told me that you have a headache and I responded by discussing the weather, it would not be very satisfying. Distraction is all well and good, but not until they get it that you are trying to understand what has them so upset. Validating a feeling is not the same thing as giving in to an unreasonable request. Try to hold them close, get them on your lap and wrap your arms around them so that they can't thrash around. Make shushing noises. Keep it simple. This is not the time for lots of words. Those come later.

If your child has frequent tantrums, see if you can figure out what is setting them off. Look for patterns. Many parents realize that kids get more fragile when they are getting hungry. Try having little snacks on hand and pay attention to any cues that might be leading up to a melt down. Are they tired? If tantrums are routine, you need to examine your child's nap/sleep schedule. Are they frustrated by something? In a calm moment, if your child is old enough, help them work on their problem solving skills.

Problem solving activities work very well after a situation has happened. Talk about what went wrong. See if they can help plan a better way to deal with it the next time.
Step one is always identifying the problem. Break it down to a small but manageable issue. Rather than the diffuse "fighting with sister" get down to a very specific issue, such as "sister won't share yellow crayon."

Step Two is talking  about some choices one might have in that situation:
Some are good choices, others not so much. They all make it to the list. Adding a silly one is just fine and makes this feel more like a game. Choices could include:
Using a different color; Using words and asking sister nicely to share (may need to wait a minute for her to finish coloring her own yellow parts.) Asking  a grown up for help; start screaming; drabbing the crayon; draw a frowning face on your hand with a black crayon; use your "walking away power" and take some deep breaths. Hopefully with some gentle guidance they can identify the more positive choices.

Problem solving exercises are very empowering for your child. The age range for when kids are able to take part in these is fairly variable, but they will all get there.

For kids over 3, see if they can recognize their own warning signs before losing control. This is a tool that will serve them so well for their entire life. Perhaps create a song together that they can sing when they are approaching tantrum stage:

"I am mad mad mad
I want to stamp my foot
I want to clench my fists
but I am going to shake out my hands
I am going to take 3 deep breaths
I am going to use my words"

Any time that you see your child get calm without losing control give them loads of positive feedback.

Kids can also get a lot out of a well told story. Create two little children that you can tell tales about. They are the same age as yours, with very similar family circumstances. One tends to make good choices and the other also gets into trouble often. Allow your child to chime in and talk about why these other children had a tantrum and what they ended up doing about it. Kids do much better talking about these very relatable characters than they do about their own actions. Once they come up with a plan for the made up child, you can bring it back around; "Maybe you could try that also."

Even the best kids have occasional meltdowns.
All tantrums can be turned into learning experiences for you and your child. Stay calm and be consistent.




Friday, October 17, 2014

Enterovirus D68



A couple of months ago, while my husband and I were watching the news, a story came on about a scary new virus in the Midwest that was causing many children to be hospitalized. He turned to me and said "Your phones will be ringing off the hooks about this tomorrow."  He was right of course. Whenever the media widely circulates a story it is hard not to get concerned.
That virus now has been identified at Enterovirus D-68 and it has subsequently spread to most of the country. We do have cases here in California.

Every year, enteroviruses and rhinoviruses cause millions of respiratory illnesses in children. This year, EV-D68 has been one of the most common type of enterovirus identified, leading to increases in illnesses among children. It affects those with asthma most severely. This strain last circulated back in the 1960s so older adults already have some immunity.

Viruses can be frightening. Every year different ones make the rounds and infect millions of people. With most viruses, the majority of the people with the illness have mild or moderate cases, but unfortunately there are a number of people with severe cases. Fatalities do occur. These are the folks of course who make the news. Luckily we have vaccines developed to protect us from some common viruses such as Influenza. Alas there is no current vaccine for this strain of enterovirus. Because most patients with the most common viruses are untested and unreported, it is hard to get a full sense of the accurate numbers.
We likely have seen some cases in the office. We did in fact have a few patients that needed to be admitted with severe cases of wheezing that seemed a bit unusual. Luckily everyone has fully recovered.

In our office when we are suspicious about flu, we often do run the test because with a diagnosis in hand, we can offer a medication like Tamiflu that might shorten and ease the symptoms. Identifying the actual virus would eliminate any uncertainty but testing for this enterovirus would be of limited use; we don't really have anything to offer beyond supportive care.

Testing for the enterovirus has also not been simple. Unless someone was actually in the hospital, the CDC wouldn't run the test. We actually did try to test of few of our sicker children in the office but didn't succeed. Just this week however (October 14th,) the CDC has started using a new and faster test. This new lab test will allow the CDC to rapidly process the more than 1,000 remaining specimens received since mid-September. As a result, the number of confirmed EV-D68 cases will likely increase substantially in the coming days. These increases will NOT reflect changes in real time or mean that the situation is getting worse.

The CDC expects that, as with other enteroviruses, EV-D68 infections will likely begin to decline by late fall.

The parameters for knowing when to be seen are the same as they are for any virus illness.


There are some ways that you can be proactive. If your child has a history of wheezing, have a current asthma action plan that you are familiar with. Have unexpired medication on hand.

If you have a very young infant, avoid crowds. Politely ask anyone who has any signs of illness to "Please step away from my baby." Wash hands with soap and water and friction.
Alcohol hand sanitizers are a good start, but enterovirus is not as susceptible to those as it is to soap. Teach your kids a hand washing song that might help encourage them to take a bit longer with it.

Friday, September 26, 2014

Nurse Jen blogs about Keeping Play Dates Safe



A few years ago, my daughter (then 7) declined an invitation to play at her friend's house; a neighbor she had played with many, many times. In fact, they had just spent the day before together. I thought she was being moody, but she dug in her heels and refused to go. What I later found out was the friend had led a game of doctor the day before, complete with physical exams and my daughter as the patient. My daughter did not like it and I was proud of her for standing her ground and not returning the next day (although the true reason why didn't come out until much later.) When I spoke to the mom about the incident she respected my daughter's feelings but I got the sense that being naked was not such a big deal in their household. In fact, she confided that her younger son was often taking his clothes off in public places because he was so used to being naked at home. While my daughter was fine being naked in our home, she was less than pleased about nakedness at someone else's home!
This got me thinking about how we may think we know our friends and neighbors well, but we really don't know the intricacies of how they parent until we are faced with a real life situation....involving our own children.

Providing enough supervision to keep kids safe while also letting them have the chance to make mistakes and grow is one of our many jobs as parents. It's not an easy one. Local non-profit Kidpower offers some advice about setting up safe playdates for our kids, I've forwarded their recent newsletter below.

The fact of the matter is, your parenting style will never be exactly the same as your friends - even your best friend. I was reminded of this just last week when my best friend visited with her three kids. While I refused to allow my kids to ride in their camper van because there were no seatbelts, she refused to let the group of kids out of sight at a small town street festival. We explained to the kids that different families have different rules. I worry about car accidents, she frets about stranger abduction. Hopefully the "It takes a village" mindset will help keep all of our kids safe, I think the advice below is a great start.

From Kidpower (www.kidpower.org)
When setting up playdates with kids who we think will enjoy spending time together, we usually think of logistics such as what time and which house. Assuming that other parents will have the same standards about safety and respect that we do because they are nice people and have great kids is normal. At Kidpower, we call these assumptions: "The Illusion of Safety," because they can lull us into believing that everything is fine - until something suddenly goes wrong.
For each situation, make a realistic assessment of your child's ability to speak up or refuse if someone does something against your safety rules - and to get help if anything makes them uncomfortable. Make sure that your child knows how to reach you or another adult caregiver at all times.
Have a frank conversation with the other parents about your expectations and, before you accept responsibility for their child, insist that they do the same with you. These conversations might be uncomfortable - but, as we teach in Kidpower, your children's safety is more important than anyone's discomfort.
Here are 8 questions to ask yourself and other parents as you are setting up a playdate in someone else's home:
1. What is and is NOT okay with you? Sometimes there can be an issue due to a difference in culture. For example, families with young children might have very different ideas about kids playing naked in the water on a hot day - or seeing each other's private areas.  Sometimes there may be a difference in values - families have very different beliefs about teasing, for example, or what kinds of videos kids are allowed to watch. Sometimes there may be an issue due to a lack of understanding. For example, people who don't have allergies might have a hard time believing that one little bite of something your child is allergic to could cause a problem. Having a clear agreement about what is and is not okay ahead of time can prevent a great deal of unpleasantness.
2. Will my child spend any time around older children or other adults? Visiting children are sometimes harmed by their friend's older siblings, friends of those siblings, or neighbors -  who may tease them or who do something unsafe, such as locking them in the closet, taking them out of the yard without permission, or molesting them.
3. Will you be there and available the whole time? Some people think nothing of leaving their and your kids with someone else for "just a few minutes" while they go to the store - and you want to know who is going to be in charge of your children.
4. Are there places you let children go without you with them? Kids going alone to the park down the street might seem normal to this family - but you want to know and decide yourself if your child is ready to handle this kind of independence and be aware of the potential hazards.
5. Are there guns in your home? If so, what kinds of safeguards do you have so that children do not get hold of them? Too many tragic accidents have happened with kids playing with guns, so we want to be aware of this hazard.
6. Do you supervise all use of smart phones, computers and television so that you know what children are seeing? Letting kids go unsupervised with technology can be as dangerous as leaving them alone in any public area without adequate preparation.
7. Will you be taking the children anywhere? You want to know where your children are, who is with them, how they will get there, and what they are doing.
8. Is there a pool, hot tub or other water feature nearby?During summertime especially, many playdates involve playing in the pool, or even in cooler weather, sometimes a hot tub. Knowing if the children will be in or near a private or open body of water, and how they will be supervised around it, is important in order to avoid tragic accidents. Even children who are good swimmers can get injured or surprised and find themselves in trouble in the water - and therefore need close supervision.
A parent's response to your questions will help you to make the decision about whether or not playdates with this family will be in the best interests of your child.  Finally, check in with your child before and after each playdate to review the safety rules and find out what went well, what didn't, and how can you make things better.


Friday, September 19, 2014

Tech Time/ How much is too much?

See updated post on this topic February 2019

Dr. Schwanke is an avid reader who often sends me copies of articles that catch his eye. The other day, he sent me one about Steve Jobs being a low tech parent. Many of you may have seen it:


I realize that this is a topic that affects most of us.

There is no disputing that we live in an ever changing world. Those who try to ignore all the technology won't be able to keep up. As much as we may be tempted to wrap the Luddite cloak around our households, is that really fair to our kids?

On the other hand, I want kids outside playing, not inside glued to a screen (for the purpose of this post I am referring to screen time as anything computer, tv or video related.) I want my patients to know what it feels like to turn the pages of a real book, not just to swipe their fingers across an Ipad. I want them to know how to get messy with fingerpaints, not just how to create virtual art. I want them to interact with friends in person, not with avatars online. How can we find a balance?

You are still in charge of how much screen time your child gets.
I think that there is absolute value in getting some. Technology offers a vast array of education and entertainment. We can learn so much from computers. The games are fun. Television has some nice programs. Having some down time while you get something else done and your child is happily engaged can be very helpful. How many of you have been in the position when you want to strangle your partner because they voiced the "no computer or videos for you ALL week!" as a consequence for some errant behavior. Some of you need that down time more than the kids!

The key is figuring out how much is too much. This is a plan that each family should discuss and create. Some families will allow more than others. Your own family should be the only one to make rules that make sense to you, but please, set some sensible limits that apply to all of you. Don't sabotage each other. If you have a partner, figure out the rules that you both feel comfortable with. Make a plan and be consistent. If your kids figure out that the rules are meaningless, you have significantly weakened your credibility.

At my solid foods class when I discuss "safe eating" I tell parents that they need to set a good example. If you shovel food in your mouth and talk with your mouth full, why would your child learn to eat any other way? Put in a small piece of food, chew and swallow. Set the standard.

When it comes to being a role model, technology is no different.
If you are always looking at a screen, if your forms of relaxation are all technology related, consider making some small changes.

My goal is for your child to have a healthy relationship with technology. Learning how to use it at a young age will keep them on the level playing field with others. Let them enjoy their allotment of tech time, but focus on opportunities where they can have just as much fun reading a book, or doing other things that don't have a screen involved. There are so many options:


Having a no TV/ no computer environment is not something that I recommend. When your child emerges from that protective bubble, they may feel a bit like Alice in Wonderland. Back in the "olden days" when my kids were young, our screen was simply the TV. They had friends come for play dates who were not allowed any television at home. If I allowed it, the only thing those kids wanted to do was watch tv because it was such a treat for them. They had no balance.

Extra screen time (still with limits) can be a commodity that can be earned for good behavior. But because I don't want it elevated to the most important thing in their lives, I would rather make the rewards that they work towards be special non-tech activities with you.

Make sure you put some child control limits on your device:

There are lots of apps out there, with more being developed all the time. Some can help you make sure that all the sites that your child can access are safe and appropriate, others can help you limit the time allowed.

As your child gets older, it becomes much trickier. It is reasonable for rules to be renegotiated with each age. Have your child be part of the discussion and verbalize understanding of the family rules. Until they are a certain age, many experts agree that all computing should be done in a common room.
  
May the force be with you...this is a tough one. 



Friday, September 12, 2014

Pacifiers - Friend of Foe



There are plenty of differing opinions out there when the subject is pacifiers. My thoughts are as follows. If used with a few common sense rules, a pacifier can be a useful tool, and what parent doesn't need all the tools they can get?

The main benefit is that it satisfies the baby's need to suck. Sure, a finger works, but a pacifier can offer a little peace and free up your hands so you can get something else done while the baby is content. If your baby is fussing and you are fairly certain they are not hungry, a pacifier may help them calm right down. Trust me, if they are looking for milk and you offer a pacifier instead of a meal, they will NOT simply happily suck. I also want to protect mom's tender nipples. It is not so good for a baby to linger on mom's nipple long after the feeding is done just because they are enjoying the sucking. A little extra sucking is fine, of course, but some kids will never sign off.

If I have my way though, I would counsel that you keep the pacifier out of the crib. Certainly it is fine if your baby drifts off to sleep occasionally when they have a pacifier in their mouth, but make it the exception, not the rule. Take it out before you put them in the bed. The cornerstone of my sleep advice is that you let your baby learn to fall asleep without too much assistance from you. Don't PUT them to sleep. Don't SNEAK them into their beds. If they learn that a pacifier is an essential part of their sleep routine, then they are dependant on you to replace it every time it falls out. I have plenty of families who are ruing the fact that they didn't heed that advice. Some of my patients now go to sleep with a dozen pacifiers scattered around the crib in the hopes that they will be able to find one and replace it themselves rather than waking up mom or dad every few hours.

Other disadvantages of a pacifier if you don't set limits is that you could end up with a Maggie Simpson on your hands. For the few of you who may not get that reference, Maggie is a cartoon character who is actively sucking on a pacifier 100% of the time. Pacifiers are also potential germ minefields. It is important to clean them well, especially after any illness. The dishwasher is fine for this.

Pacifiers can also be safety issues if they are worn down. If you have a brand that your baby is attached to, make sure you have several, and throw away any damaged ones immediately.

Typically the oral stage should be ending around 12 months. This is also an age when the mouth is about to go through some major growth changes. Ideally try to lose the pacifier habit well before that.

Dr David Rothman, who was my children's dentist says that he is often  able to guess the brand of the pacifier by the shape of the roof of the mouth. They do have an impact! Some forceful frequent sucking on a pacifier can generate more force than an orthodontic appliance. When I asked him his opinion about which is the least heinous type, he told me the better ones are probably the Playtex natural nurser and the evenflo. He says the worst offenders are the NUK and "orthodontic" type pacifiers.

Dr Claudia Masouredis, another popular local pediatric dentist says that she doesn't have any strong opinions on pacifiers. She admits to having had a daughter who used one and feels they provide comfort to some children, so she is not militant about forbidding their use. She adds that they can cause bite issues if used frequently. These malocclusions may self-correct when the habit stops.

Nurse Charity says that pacifiers can be  linked to early weaning. She prefers that folks use round ones for the least impact. She is fine with limited use.  As she says, "use them for a purpose, don't just shove them in!"

One of Dr Anne's twins enjoyed the pacifier while the other rejected them right off the bat. Every baby is different. She stopped offering the pacifier around 4 months.

My older daughter Lauren loved her pacifier. I don't even know what brand it was. It was pink and plastic and luckily she seems to have survived having that habit without any long term repercussions. She referred to it as her "powell" which was probably the garbled way she would have said "pacifier" if she didn't have it in her mouth. At the time, I didn't know enough to set any pacifier limits and it became clear that if we didn't intervene, this was a habit she was in no hurry to break. When she was older than two, we ultimately made the rule that she could only have it when she was at home and she had to deposit it in a little bowl when we were leaving the house. Eventually we staged an intervention and "gave them away" to a new baby that a friend had just had. She plaintively asked for her powell for about a week before she moved on.

Dr Kaplan sent her little guy's pacifier up to the pacifier fairy by tying it to the end of some helium balloons. "Bye bye pacifier"

Bottom line, if your baby likes it, use a pacifier for occasional sucking needs during the day and for the first year only (but try to get rid of it before 6 months unless it is essential to your peace of mind.) If you follow these guidelines, you shouldn't have to worry about breaking a difficult habit later.


Friday, August 29, 2014

Hepatitis B/Your first vaccination opportunity



Deciding whether or not to vaccinate your child is a decision that some parents struggle with.

It can be hard to find a balanced discussion. The internet is full of one sided rhetoric (both pro vaccine and the anti vaccine factions are guilty of this). Can vaccinations have some side effects? Absolutely. Do they always work? Of course not. That being said, I personally believe that vaccinations save lives and that the benefits overwhelmingly outweigh the concerns.

Our office puts an enormous amount of thought into the vaccination schedule that we follow.
We don't just blindly follow the rules. In past years there were times that we were doing our schedule a little differently than other offices as we tried to minimize the amount of shots during one visit.
When the Pentacel combination vaccine was introduced, our schedule finally shifted around and now we follow the standard immunization recommendations. It appears that Dr. Sears seems comfortable with this vaccine schedule as well; so many of the parents who were trying to spread things around no longer feel the need to do so.

The first immunization that is given to many babies is the Hepatitis B vaccine. There are different forms of Hepatitis. The B strain is mostly contracted through blood exposure or sexual activity.
Hepatitis B is no joke. It is 100 times more contagious than HIV. It can lead to liver cancer and death. In Britain where babies currently do not routinely get the Hep B at birth, the cases of Hepatitis B have doubled in the last decade. The Hepatitis B vaccine was approved in 1981 and has over 30 years of proven safety. It was actually the first cancer preventing vaccine.

In this country, most hospitals will automatically give this within a day or so of birth unless you tell them otherwise. If mom is Hepatitis B positive (It is important to know your Hepatitis B status, check with your OB if you don't) it is essential for the baby to get the protection as soon as possible.
If mom is not a Hepatitis B carrier, then I am perfectly comfortable if you decide to hold off from getting it before you leave the hospital.  The official recommendation is to get that first one over with in the hospital and there is no down side, but if you are feeling overwhelmed with things and want a bit more time before jumping into the immunization program, I have no issues with my patients delaying that hospital dose, but don't delay too long. I would suggest getting started with it at the one month visit if you put off that immediate new-born dose.

Is your young child high risk? Probably not. But before you decide to waive the protection altogether please consider this. Hepatitis B can survive outside of the body for at least several hours.
I know of more than one case in this city where an unsuspecting child found a syringe in a playground. Living in an urban environment means it is not zero risk for exposure. Currently most day-cares and schools require the series before admission so most likely (unless you sign a vaccine waiver) your child will get need to get the Hep B series within the first few years of life.  It is much easier on your child to get this shot added to the rounds of shots that we give that first year of life. A few extra  shots makes no difference to them. Once they are over 18 months they are much more aware of every poke and trust me, you will be glad that you got these over with. Certainly all children should get the Hepatitis B series before they are teenagers, even if you sign a waiver to delay it when they are young. This vaccination is a three part series.

The Hepatitis vaccine seems to be quite safe and I usually do not see any obvious vaccine reaction to it. For more information, the CDC Hepatitis B vaccine information sheet can be viewed at the following link:


Friday, August 8, 2014

Infant Acne


 
Infant acne is a very common affliction and one that we get a LOT of calls about. Although the timing can vary, it typically shows up between 3 and 6 weeks of age and is usually gone in a couple of months. Your previously flawless infant is suddenly covered with pimples. This will include whiteheads, pinkish pimples and red, rough patches of skin. The rash can spread beyond just the face and move to areas all over the chest and the head. The situation seems to get aggravated and redder when the baby is warm. The cause of the infant acne is thought to be a combination of maternal hormones and baby sweat glands starting to work

Infant acne drives parents crazy, but usually doesn't bother the baby at all. Of course, not all rashes are infant acne. Little white pimples called milia are also quite common and may be present at birth. Some babies may be sensitive to detergents, soaps or something in a breast feeding mom's diet. As with any rash, if the baby seems bothered by it (they may be rubbing at their face as if they are itchy) if they seem unusually fussy ( probably unrelated, but.....) or the rash seems oozy or crusty, schedule an appointment to have the baby evaluated. Any distinct large pustule should be checked out to make sure it isn't Staph. 

Infant acne loves to show up when the grandparents are about to meet the baby for the first time or you are ready for a photo shoot (this is what Photoshop is made for. My generation wasn't so lucky!)
There is no standard treatment. Simply wash the areas with gentle soap and water. Some folks say that applying breast milk or Calendula cream  directly to the rashy area seems to help calm it down.

While the rash on your baby's face  is very likely infant acne, I understand if you feel the need to check in anyway by sending a photo or giving us a call. Trust me, I get it. In my own case, when my first born Lauren suddenly resembled a teenager with horrible acne, I broke down and made that very first call to the pediatrician.

Friday, July 25, 2014

Nurse Charity blogs about thrush


Breastfeeding and Thrush
or
All that Burns is not Yeast

Summer is here (although in our foggy part of the world, some days it feels like a long cold winter) and this means a plethora of rashes, bug bites, and minor injuries.  For breastfeeding moms of new babies, it means a lot of diaper rashes (both bacterial, and fungal), and *possible* nipple thrush.  Candida albicans loves warm, dark places- like the mouth, the warm folds of skin covered by a diaper, and the damp inside of a supportive bra.  It is a part of our everyday human flora, held to manageable numbers by competing microorganisms; the addition of a bit more moisture, a more alkaline environment, and warmer weather are just the resources yeast has been looking for to begin !world domination! (starting with your nipples).  

Because breastfeeding involves both moms and babies- it is doubly hard to treat.   I will focus on Moms first, (because we tend to put ourselves last).



Step 1:Look for the most obvious culprit of nipple pain- LATCH!

Many books and online articles will leap immediately to yeast as a culprit for burning nipple pain- I mean why not? that stuff is everywhere, and in the warm-up phase, it is easy to treat over the counter with some inexpensive cream.  As a lactation consultant in practice for many years, I have learned the hard way that most pain, burning or otherwise, is usually caused by ~bad latch~.   It is a sad, sad fact that no amount of cream can cover.  So the first stop for any burning pain is a quick trip to a friendly lactation consultant to have a look at the latch.  Many stellar, comfortable, milk transferring, latches change over time, as babies get bigger and bigger, they start looming over the breast, tucking the chin to the chest to nurse, and not getting a wide open mouth- ouch PINCHY!!  

Step 2: Look for bacterial infection-
Yeast is very hard to grow out in culture.  The most comprehensive study of burning pain and relation to nipple thrush actually implicated low level BACTERIAL infection (meaning when we went hunting around- we found a lot more bacterial causes).  Most antifungals will also treat bacterial (not as well, but will kill off some- often enough to let the body put down the uprising).  So If I see a crusty, goopy nipple with "white stuff."  It is usually bacterial in nature, and matching the cause with the treatment means you get a faster, better solution to your nipple pain.

Step 3:  Ok- lets look for yeast-
Fungal infections of the skin (because they are not a mucous membrane) usually do not put out a lot of white stuff.  Mostly what I see is BRIGHT red/pink, and looks tight and shiny.  Sometimes it looks dry and cracked. Unfortunately, many other skin conditions also look like that:  Eczema on the nipples, contact dermatitis from soap,  etc, etc etc.  So forays into yeast treatment are experimental.  Ductal yeast (an infection on the inside of the breast  we cannot even see) usually feels like glass under the skin- very painful latch- feels like tiny cuts with glass shards, and then a very painful burning.


We came, we saw- now we want to conquer!

Try an over the counter antifungal-
Low level yeast, or probable yeast (no one is ever quite sure) can be treated with an over the counter vaginal yeast cream (clotrimazole, miconazole, that little tube of external cream that came with your vaginal yeast suppositories- it all works)  Just put it on in a thin layer after feeding or pumping.  And now I am going to shock you.  *Don't wash it off* before your next nursing.  A little bit of cream will not hurt your baby in the slightest- while the friction, and soap residue from washing your nipples compulsively every feed will definitely give you sore nipples.

Get rid of the warm, moist, alkaline environment-
Leave the nipples open to air as much as possible.  Wear a clean bra everyday, put some vinegar in the rinse water to kill yeasty bits hanging out there in the fabric.  Ditch the disposable breast pads (they have a plastic backing- holding in moisture- and they are very alkaline).  Try cotton ones, or my favorite WOOL (change them 3-4x per day).  If you like the idea of a vinegar rinse, I like a very dilute vinegar and water mix in a spray bottle (one tablespoon of vinegar, white or apple cider to one cup of water). Do not be tempted to make it stronger- too much acidity will cause dryness, burning, and nipple cracks- all signs of yeast.  Sometimes we use coconut oil on the nipples, reputed to be naturally antifungal and definitely supportive to dry looking skin (no one has done the actual research, but it seems like a good theory).  

Check the baby's mouth-
Most white tongue is actually milk tongue not yeast.  Even low level oral candida albicans usually requires no treatment, we just let it go. If your nipples, and breastfeeding start to suffer, however, we often treat the baby as well.  When I first started at Noe Valley Pediatrics, the oral Nystatin worked pretty well for most cases.  We still use it, it requires a trip into the office, so the Docs can have a look at the mouth! Probiotics cant hurt, might help.  For oral thrush, I like a powdered probiotic, ¼ teaspoon, dampen a finger roll it around in the powder, then put the finger in the babies mouth 1 time per day. Pro tip- Can also be dusted on the nipples.



I did everything you told me, now where is my relief?
Sorry Moms- sometimes even if you did all that, we need to do more:-(  Sad Story.  

Oceans of potions-    

All Purpose Nipple Ointment (APNO)- When we are not quite sure, we tend to throw this concoction at it.  It is RX, is expensive (if not covered by your insurance, most current plans DO, but the pharmacy may call you to check)  and needs to be compounded.  The Walgreens near our office stocks the stuff for us (bless them!) but otherwise it needs to be filled at a compounding pharmacy (Like Four-Fifty Sutter downtown, or The Rexall in the Sunset).  It is an antibacterial, an antifungal, and has a corticosteroid.  We also use it for stubborn diaper rashes  on occasion, so some of you have tubes at home.  Directions: Thin layer after each nursing/pumping.  *don't wash it off.* Follow-up if it does not work in 7-10 days, don't just keep using it.  

Gentian violet- It is a purple, dye, clings well in tincture form to skin, STAINS!  This is sold over the counter at the 20th and Mission walgreens in the "latino" section (that is what the Walgreens calls the section- sometimes they will tell you they don't carry it at all- ask for the latino section, and have a look- it is usually there- in spite of what the staff says).  Like many medicines, it can be toxic in large quantities.  In the level we are using it, probably non-harmful.  It does WORK reliably, as it treats both the nipple and the baby!!.  New and improved Directions: Applied one time a day!!  I recommend at night.  Strip down mom and baby.  Put some aquaphor, or cream around, not in the babies mouth to minimize staining.  Open the tincture, put in a clean q-tip, then put that q-tip inside the babies mouth and let them suck on it.  I find trying to paint the white parts is messier than just the q-tip in the mouth.  It coats well, and as a q-tip does not actually hold very much tincture, they will not swallow much of anything (usually just saliva).  Throw that q-tip away, get out a new one, and use it to paint your nipple and areola. (do not double dip the baby q-tip, get your own clean one).  Air dry the nipples.  Now you have two purple nipples, and a purple mouth baby.  The baby will start off looking like a member of Kiss, by the am, they will look like you are a terrible parent, and are feeding your baby purple otter pops.  By the afternoon, they look slightly cyanotic.  Then you will repeat for 5 days THEN STOP.  If there is no improvement in 3 days, please give us a call.  IF it is mostly better but not all clear at the five day mark you can go to 7 days, THEN STOP.  If in doubt, please call us!  Weird sores?  STOP and call (has never happened on my watch, but before my time, there was such a case).
Thanks to our model Shannon for showing off her purple mouth in the photo 

Grapefruit seed extract GSE- (lifted, with permission, from Jack Newman) Use instead of vinegar and water spritz.  Mix very well 5- 10 drops in 30 ml (1 ounce) of water.  Use cotton swab to apply on both nipples and areolas after the feeding. Let dry a few seconds, and then apply "all purpose nipple ointment". If also using Gentian Violet, do not use GSE on that particular feed but use after all other feeds. Use until pain is gone and then wean down slowly over the period of at least a week. If pain is not significantly improving after two to three days, increase the concentration by 5 drops per 30 ml (ounce) of water. Can continue increasing concentration until 25 drops/ 30 ml of water.


Diflucan- This is for Mom for ductal yeast, (after we have ruled out other more rare causes like Raynauds, and bad latch).  We prefer you go through your PCP or OB/GYN. The dosage is listed here because some HCP use the one time vaginal yeast protocol (which does not work) Diflucan (generic is just fine) 400mg loading dose on day 1, then 200 mg day 2-day 14 until you are PAIN FREE, can be repeated. We sometimes use this in conjunction with gentian violet or nystatin for the baby.  

For those moms who are yeasty people
Sometimes women with stubborn yeast are just really, really good yeast growers.  They tend to get oral thrush, and vaginal thrush at the drop of a hat, or with any antibiotics.  You know who you are.  I am one of this group; It really, really sucks.  For these folks, we go heavy hitting early (gentian violet, and APNO and diflucan) and we also recommend some stuff to cut down on yeast in your home environment.  It is labor intensive, so not every mom with a yeast problem needs to do these things!  Use your towel once, and only once.  Wear a new nightgown or pajamas, sleep bra etc every night, change your sheets every 5 days. Add vinegar to every rinse of your laundry.  Cut down on simple carbohydrates, and sugars.  



So that's it!
THRUSH, may you never have to do battle,
but if you do-  Go prepared! 

Update 2023..The world health organization does not list gentian violet on their approved list of treatments.