Friday, May 20, 2016

Kids and Pets

I personally think that most families are enriched by having a pet.
Of course, as an advice nurse I have a bit of an unusual take on things. I do get plenty of animal related calls. A little knowledge and planning can help keep the relationship between your pet and your child happy and safe.

For those of you who already have pets living with you, I understand that animals are essential and much loved members of the family. In some cases they may actually feel like your first child, but here are a few things to consider:

Many cats are quite happy to welcome a baby to the family, but cats are cats. Once your child has the ability to chase after them, the cat will usually establish dominance once or twice with a good swipe.  Kids (and new puppies) learn pretty quickly what the rules are. Watch out for cat scratches, they can get infected fairly easily. It is essential to clean them well and apply an antibiotic ointment. (Don't use peroxide, current thinking says to avoid it because it causes tissue irritation). If there is any increasing redness or red streaking appearing around the scratch site, that might be a sign that it is infected and it should be evaluated.
If your crawling child starts getting little red spots, consider that they might be flea bites. Fleas are rampant here in San Francisco year round. When not on your pet, fleas tend to hang out in the carpets and while they might not bother you, your child is spending more time on the rug and presents a tasty treat.
Please do your best to keep your kitties out of your baby's crib or bed. I know I sound like an old grandmother, but it is  a safety hazard for a cat to snuggle around an infant's face.
Meow mix has never hurt anyone, but you want to make sure that the cat food is not left out where your toddler can get into it.
Now, getting a little more disgusting, make sure the litter box is somewhere where the child has no access. You don't want to be the parent who calls me horrified that their baby just had a snack of cat poop.
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Make sure you closely supervise any interactions with your dog and your new baby to make sure the dog is not exhibiting any behaviors that you need to worry about. If the dog is at all growly, as heart wrenching as it may be, they might need to be placed in a home with no kids. Consider a home visit withSteph from puppy prep to help you with any necessary evaluation or training.
Most dogs are perfectly wonderful with the children but even with the most loving dogs please make it a rule that your baby or toddler is not allowed near them at meal time. The innocuous infant might become more of a threat when they start getting more mobile. Let your doggy have a baby free zone where they can eat in peace. By far most of the bites that I get called about are food related.
I recall one situation where we had a toddler get bitten by the family dog. One of those "treat balls" was unearthed under the sofa where it had been hiding for months. The dog got very territorial when the toddler tried to get it and the baby took the brunt of it. Fortunately bites by a family dog are the rare exception. By far most of the animal bites that I get called about happen outside of the home. If you are visiting a friend or relative's house and they have a pet ask them explicitly if the animal has any history at all of aggressive behavior with children. Some folks have a blind spot where their beloved pets are concerned and lose their common sense. If there is any doubt please ask that the pet be kept away from your child.
If you are walking down the street, teach your child that before you pet any strange animal you ask the owner for permission. Some animals tied up outside a store may be stressed and don't feel comfortable being approached.
Once you have the 'all clear' to say hello, demonstrate the safest and best way to meet an new animal. Show them how to hold out their hand first and let the animal give them a sniff. For younger kids, consider teaching them the one finger petting technique - have them make a fist except for the pointer finger. This way they can pet the animal with that one finger without grabbing hunks of fur.
Even with the best training and intentions, my youngest Alana kept me on my toes. From the minute she could crawl, she was scampering across the park to say hello to anything with fur.
If you don't have a pet and are considering getting one:
I am a total animal lover and I think that having a pet is a wonderful thing. In our case, our family was adopted by a stray Siamese cat when Lauren was still a baby. George lived a very long life and I am sure never regretted choosing us as his family.
We also wanted a dog.

My mother-in-law had plenty of strong opinions. Among them were some pearls of wisdom that resonated with me. Her theory was:

  • All children need a dog, teenagers especially so. There is nothing quite like the unconditional love of a dog to get you through tough times.
  • The last thing an adolescent needs is to lose their dog during those tumultuous years.
  • Barring an unforeseen tragedy, the lifespan of a dog is roughly predictable, so plan accordingly.
When she first mentioned this to me I was actually a little horrified. It felt so callous and calculating, but I thought about it a little further and it made perfect sense. We ended up getting our beautiful golden Java when my girls were 9 and 12. We were blessed to have her with us for 12 wonderful years. Our family was much richer for it.
Please accept ahead of time that as much as you bargain with your child and make agreements about how the dog responsibility will be shared, just give up right from the start. The dog is yours. You will be the one remembering to feed them, doing all the walks in the rain and probably 100% of the poop scooping. Trust me. Luckily the value of getting a family pet goes way beyond teaching your child responsibility.
Puppy prep’s Steph Miller , owner of Recess With Steph, shared the following excellent tips:

Dogs, Babies, and Expectations – Getting YouReady!
Here are some suggestions to help you prepare your dog for Baby’s arrival:
1. Practice basic manners and tricks so that your dog has plenty of cues he knows well and you can direct him to do. Examples: sit, touch, place, out, down, leave it, settle, target.
2. Socialize your dog around children in a positive and controlled environment. Observing kids while you give your dog treats or enjoy a game of fetch is a wonderful way to build a positive association. Short exposure is perfect!
3. Replace unwanted attention seeking behaviors with desired behaviors.
Example: sit to be petted instead of pawing you on the couch.
4. Practice short times of separation with a “success station” while you are home! Crates, gates, indoor tethers, or a doggie room are all great success station options.
5. Know your dog’s sensitivities. Research his breed or mixture of breeds. Observe whether the dog startles with fast motion, noises, or other sudden events.
6. Begin a “baby flexible schedule” vs. a rigid schedule. For example, if your dog always eats at 6am, you may want to vary this time so that your dog gets used to changes and won’t wake you up early for breakfast!
7. Allow your dog to become familiar with the baby equipment. Focus on teaching him how you would like him to behave near this equipment. Doing this ahead makes a world of difference!
8. Place a baby doll or teddy bear in the baby’s carrier and move through the house and yard with it. Practice helps you to get the idea of whatit will be like to use this equipment around your dog.
9. Walk your dog with an empty stroller, or put a heavy doll or a 10lb weight in it for a more realistic feel, in order to learn more about the skills your dog needs to learn before a walk with a real baby.
10. Use a CD of baby noises to introduce new sounds and create a positive experience prior to the baby’s arrival. You can purchase dog expert Terry Ryan’s baby sounds as a CD or digital download by visiting
11. Have Dad bring home a blanket with the baby’s scent on it (Dad will smell like the baby, too). Let the dog become accustomed to the scent in positive ways.
12. If your dog is due for his yearly check-up and vaccinations, schedule your visit well ahead of time, and be sure to stock up on all necessary medications and supplies.
13. Familiarize your dog with the person that may care for them while you are away.
14. Find a good, safe spot for your diaper pail.
15. Find a licensed Family Paws Parent Education presenter in your local
area: or contact me directly at
16. Have fun and enjoy your family!

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