Please see updated post May 2016
I personally think that most families are enriched by having a pet.
Of course, as an advice nurse I have a bit of an unusual take on things. I do get plenty of animal related calls.
A little knowledge and planning can help keep the relationship between your pet and your child happy and safe.
For
those of you who already have pets living with you, I understand that
animals are essential and much loved members of the family. In some
cases they may actually feel like your first child, but here are a few
things to consider:
Cats:
Many
cats are quite happy to welcome a baby to the family, but cats are
cats. Once your child has the ability to chase after them, the cat will
usually establish dominance once or twice with a good swipe. Kids (and
new puppies) learn pretty quickly what the rules are.
Do
watch out for cat scratches, they can get infected fairly easily. It is
essential to clean them well and apply an antibiotic ointment. (Don't
use peroxide, current thinking says to avoid it because it causes
tissue irritation). If there is any increasing redness or red streaking
appearing around the scratch site, that might be a sign that it is
infected and it should be evaluated.
If
your crawling child starts getting little spots, consider that they
might be flea bites. Fleas are rampant here in San Francisco year round.
When not on your pet, fleas tend to hang out in the carpets and while
they might not bother you, your child is spending more time on the rug
and presents a tasty treat.
Please
do your best to keep your kitties out of your baby's crib or bed. I
know I sound like an old grandmother, but it is a safety hazard for a
cat to snuggle around an infant's face.
Meow mix has never hurt anyone, but you want to make sure that the cat food is not left out where your toddler can get into it.
Now,
getting a little more disgusting, make sure the litter box is somewhere
where the child has no access. You don't want to be the parent who
calls me horrified that their baby just had a snack of cat poop.
Dogs:
Make
sure you closely supervise any interactions with your dog and your new
baby to make sure the dog is not exhibiting any behaviors that you need
to worry about.
If the dog is at all growly, as heart wrenching as it may be, they might need to be placed in a home with no kids.
Most
dogs are perfectly wonderful with the children but even with the most
loving dogs please make sure that your baby or toddler is not allowed
near them at meal time. Let your doggy have a baby free zone where they
can eat in peace.
By far most of the bites that I get called about are food related.
Just
recently we had a toddler get bitten by the family dog. One of those
"treat balls" was unearthed under the sofa where it had been hiding for
months. The dog got very territorial when the toddler tried to get it
and the baby took the brunt of it.
Bites
by a family dog are the rare exception. By far most of the animal bites
that I get called about happen outside of the home.
If
you are visiting a friend or relatives house and they have a pet. Ask
them explicitly if the animal has any history at all of aggressive
behavior with children. Some folks have a blind spot where their beloved
pets are concerned and lose their common sense. If there is any doubt
please ask that the pet be kept away from your child.
If
you are walking down the street, teach your child that before you pet
any strange animal you ask the owner for permission. Some animals tied
up outside a store may be stressed and don't feel comfortable being
approached.
Once you have the all clear to say hello, demonstrate the safest and best way to meet an new animal.
Show them how to hold out their hand first and let the animal give them a sniff.
For
younger kids, consider teaching them the one finger petting technique
have them make a fist except for the pointer finger. This way they can
pet the animal with that one finger without grabbing hunks of fur.
My
youngest Alana kept me on my toes.From the minute she could crawl, she
was scampering across the park to say hello to anything with fur.
If you don't have a pet and are considering getting one:
I am a total animal lover and I think that having a pet is a wonderful thing.
In
our case our family was adopted by a stray Siamese cat when Lauren was
still a baby. He lived a very long life and I am sure never regretted
choosing us as his family.
We also wanted a dog.
My mother-in-law had plenty of strong opinions. Amongst them were some pearls of wisdom that resonated with me..
Her theory was:
*All
children need a dog, teenagers especially so. There is nothing quite
like the unconditional love of a dog to get you through tough times.
*The last thing an adolescent needs is to lose their dog during those tumultuous years.
*Barring an unforeseen tragedy, the lifespan of a dog is roughly predictable, so plan accordingly.
When
she first mentioned this to me I was actually a little horrified. It
felt so callous and calculating, but when I thought about it a little
further and it made perfect sense.
We
ended up getting our beautiful golden Java when my girls were 9 and 12.
We were blessed to have her with us for 12 wonderful years. Our family
was much richer for it.
Do
know ahead of time that as much as you bargain with your child and make
agreements about how the dog responsibility will be shared....just give
up right from the start. The dog is yours. You will be the one
remembering to feed them, doing all the walks in the rain and the poop
scooping. Trust me.
Luckily the value of getting a family pet goes way beyond teaching your child responsibility.
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